Cinco de Mayo is easy to celebrate, the marketing gods have made it so. You buy a couple Coronas, dab that margarita glass in salt, and gulp away. It’s literally mindless. But there’s another holiday that creeped up on us, like way too fast. Mother’s Day.
Last year in my house Mother’s Day was a disaster. We all had fault minus the matriarch. My mami was pissed that her Mother’s Day felt so thoughtless, arguments broke out, and we ended up doing nada but fighting. Her biggest argument was that she didn’t even have a card waiting on her to wake up. My bad.
I’m honestly so not mushy when it comes to ‘special’ gifts. I start brainstorming gift ideas for Christmas in late October because it takes me just that long to figure out the right gift. Everyone drops hints about what they’d like to be gifted to them but those fly right over my head. Unless you physically show me something and say I WANT IT, I’m clueless.
I’m working on this problem.
So this year my sister brought to my attention, “What are we doing for Mother’s Day, remember last year? We gotta get it right.”
Shit.
The past few weeks amidst the end of an internship, reporting and writing for my final feature of this NYU grad course, and trying to squeeze in a mediocre amount of time to hit the gym for a boost of those things called endorphins, I’ve also been flexing my brain to think up some good ways to make my mami feel ‘special’ this year.
Here’s what I got (in case you’re bad at this too):
A CARD. This year I will not forget a greeting card. It’s the simplest part of a gift, but the one I forget to every time. As a matter of fact, I’m scouting for one of those obnoxiously large cards just to make the point that I’m trying here.
THE MEAL. Breakfast in bed would have been my saving grace last year. Except that my mother is the first one up, and I’m a morning person but she still has me beat. But I’m a graduate student with a ton of debt, so taking the family out to a restaurant isn’t within my means. Want to make it all emotional and sappy like mom’s want? Make her the first meal she taught you how to cook. It might be the simplest meal but when you tell her the thought behind it, she’ll be weak in the knees with adoration for ya. Plus anytime she doesn’t have to cook, it feels like a holiday to her!
An INSTAGRAM COLLAGE. Let’s be real, it’s not a celebration until there’s a collage on Instagram to prove it. If your mom is on social media like mine is, she’ll appreciate the public shout out. My mami calls likes ‘hits’ and she loves knowing how anything with her in it does in terms of said ‘hits’ when it goes up.
THE GIFT. Never get a mom stuff for the house on Mother’s Day. It’s like saying, “Hey I really like how good the house smells so here’s some more of your favorite candles!” Fail. Moms appreciate an experience that differs from their everyday lives. If your mom is a stay at home, get her out of the house! If your mom is an out-of-home workaholic, find her some relaxing activities. My mom and I love anything entertainment. So I’m thinking some tickets to see our favorite Dancing With The Stars brother/sister duo might do the trick. Told you I’m trying to pick up on the hints!
If you can get it together, like I hope I’m able to this year, you’re going to give mami a million reasons why she’s grateful to have put up with you all these years!